couple in loveQ: What is the biggest mistake people make on their first date?

A: Interestingly enough, the answer to this is the same for men and women. The biggest thing to keep in mind on a first date is try to relax and be yourself. Positive energy attracts good things so try to be optimistic and enjoy the experience of being out and getting to know someone! Ask leading questions that clue you in to your date’s thoughts, opinions, and life.. and feel free to share interesting info about your own.

Topics to avoid? The most common turn-off reported by men and women, is when someone obsesses about his/her ex! Don’t share what they did, why they're awful, or how horrible your life was together… this is a huge dating mistake. That information can be shared down the road… if necessary… for now, think about and appreciate the moment you're in, and make the most of it! And don’t forget to smile and have fun! For answers to your dating or speed dating questions, just email us.

Q: It can be a small world out there in the land of dating on the Shoreline. What happens if an ex-girlfriend unexpectedly shows up at a speed dating event I’m attending?

A: This is a great question—and one we hadn’t stopped to consider, and although not likely, it’s definitely possible. However—there’s one easy answer—make the most of it! First of all, please remember we are talking only 5 minutes face to face! Use this as a way to challenge yourself to find the humor in any situation that life dishes out… laughter helps us through anything! Find a way to be nice, make your ex see the funny side of this, and maybe you will even feel better afterwards when you both realize you can be in the same environment without an issue. Of course, if this is not a possibility, and 5 minutes becomes excruciating, feel free to excuse yourself to use the rest room for the remaining few minutes. Always be aware that our staff members are present to assist you in any situation you need help with!! But, the chances of this occurring are slim—while your chances of having a wonderful evening and making several new connections—are infinite! For answers to your dating or speed dating questions, just email us.